If You Want to be Filled, Learn to be Empty

Pouring out to receive what you truly desire

The words “If you want to be filled, learn to be empty” play like a song in my head often.

They played on a loop throughout the last half of 2024, calling me to clear the slate, get empty, and get ready so new life could fill me.

I’m grateful for the Scorpionic woman in me who feels safe to make bold leaps into the unknown in order to dive deeper into the mystery of this life. I’m no stranger to transformation and surrendering to the mystery when I can feel something bigger wanting to emerge through me.

When things feel off, and I no longer feel receptive to life, in touch with my soul's desires, or excited, I know it’s time to empty myself and create the space to receive the seeds of life that wish to be created through me.

I arrived at this familiar but uncomfortable space while living in L.A. Or, more so, I got to the end of my rope after five years of a slow, subtle depletion of my spirit. Everything in my life started to feel weighted as if it was pulling me down in a direction I didn’t want to go (karmic threads). At the tail end of my time in L.A., I didn’t desire to make new friends, date, expand my work, write my book, or have new experiences at all. I was bored, uninspired, and craving more. In this state, all I wanted to do was rest in my little sanctuary and write poetry, protected from the world outside my door that did not resonate with my spirit.

While periods of rest and stillness are so essential for the feminine, this was not a productive period of rest where I felt restored at the end of it. It was actually the kind of rest or feminine lethargy that can turn out to be very draining or numbing to the spirit, leading to depression, resistance, or a general loss of motivation. Which is often the rest cycle many women get stuck in. I felt unmotivated in many areas of my life, which was a deep call to remember my desires and let new life birth through me.

When our lights dim, it’s very common to self-isolate to protect the little bit of sacred nectar we have or dissociate through known comforts that give us a little dopamine hit, but this isn’t sustainable. Eventually, the well will go completely empty.

Anytime a woman stops feeling abundant, fed, creative, or vital in life, something needs to transform, and there is a choice point to be revealed, a sacred leap to get unstuck from whatever binds and dive into the stream of honey awaiting because this honey is her lifeblood.

What I am sharing is not about manifestation, money, or anything else we are conditioned to want/need/orient towards to feel secure; it’s about the life force of a woman, feeding the hunger of her spirit. If a woman is depleted, she has no fuel to create, and her life will reflect that. Her life will dull as her senses dull because she is not turned on. This depletion is not just physical, it is spiritual depletion, emotional depletion, and mental depletion, too, that eats away at a woman’s vitality. And in this dulled sensory experience, her flowing waters of nectar and oracular magic will most likely turn frozen or damned.

As modern women on the path of remembering what has been lost, one of the most important and necessary lessons to learn is what feeds us. But to know what feeds us, we must be willing to get hungry. And in witnessing our hunger, we learn what our soul craves for us to experience.